GIRLS Will she take me back? Read my story (bit long, sorry)?
Ok this is a bit long, only read it if you have time on your hands. Thanks :) We're both 17 and we went out for a few months. We're both fairly new to the whole dating thing. Anyway, I really like her, and she said she really liked me. Sometimes I would be a bit too needy, like I would text her and be surprised when she didnt text back (she's quite independent), but if we spent the day together doing something it would be the other way round. Just so you know, we're in England, not America, in our last two years of high school when we have these big exams that determine which universities we can go to. She is VERY into her work and feels under a lot of pressure since her parents are teachers and a lot of her relatives have gone to one of the top universities in the UK. Anyway, we had some trial exams about a month ago. She had a week of absolute hell, since she had lots of classwork to catch up on as well as revision for these trial exams (which, unlike me, she took very seriously). On the day of the last trial exam she dumped me, saying that she was behind on all her work and didn't want to fail. If any other girl told me this, I would think she was lying, but she isn't your everyday average teenage girl. Obviously at first I didn't believe her and reacted badly by walking away from her, so she texted me later saying again how sorry she was (I replied, not angrily, but agreeing it would be best to stay friends). I was talking to my matron afterwards (a sort of school nurse), who knew the girl and told me she was in fact struggling with her schoolwork (she knew this from feedback from other teachers). I tried to move on like she suggested, but it didn't seem to work. I dont know if I love this girl or not; she is not your generic high school hottie, she doesnt get much romantic attention from guys (she said she couldnt understand why I chose her "instead of some pretty blonde girl"), but in my eyes she is absolutely beautiful. I know she hurt me, but she is the sweetest, funniest girl I have ever known (it's not a trait most guys my age look for, but it is for me!). On my birthday (a week after she dumped me) I sent her a text saying I still had feelings for her. Her reply was friendly but she said "I am behind on all of my work, and I dont want to fail". When we went out, I would give her things. On a date I gave her a box of swiss chocolates, a chocolate lollipop one time, roses and a homemade card on valentines day, and a poem (yes, a poem... this is the only person in the world I would write this for). I gave her these things because we could only see each other once every few weeks, so I tried to make each occasion special (I couldn't hang around her or her friends obviously). A few weeks later, I wrote another poem for her (you might have seen me put it on here... I got good feedback so I'm guessing it was a good one). Her reply was a text saying "thankyou =) hope things are good with you". Obviously I was upset, so I replied saying "should I have written that for somebody else?" A few days later term ended and we're now on holiday, revising for the big exams which come up in a few weeks. Eventually we texted a bit more, agreeing to meet up sometime (just as friends). One night though I was just lying in bed, and I dont know what happened... I had had some family problems that day with arguments between my parents, who are split but who were trying to take us on holiday. I made a big mistake, overwhelmed by emotion, and sent her a text telling her I loved her (I know, big mistake... even though at this point, I realised it was true). She replied by saying she didn't have time for this (busy revising like everyone else), and although part of her felt the same she would rather focus on her school work. I texted her again later asking she was ok, I literally got a text just saying "I'm fine". I havent heard from her since, despite texting her to ask what was wrong and saying I was sorry. I know she doesn't love me back and she has much more important stuff to do at the moment, but all I want is to be able to hold her in my arms again and kiss her forehead and keep her safe. I've been told I'm handsome, I do lots of sport. I'm kind and compassionate (doesn't really work in my favour, since guys my age aren't meant to be). But I do know that once the summer comes, these exams will be out of the way, and she will feel much less stressed. I've decided to cut off contact with her completely until the exams are over and summer starts, and then ask if she wants to meet up sometime. If she says yes, I'll see how it goes, and hopefully ask her out again, knowing that we can at least have a summer relationship :) If everything goes to plan, do you think she will say yes?
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1 :
of course she will.. all women do that
2 :
LONG?.... that thing is a book. And YES, she'll say YES, if she's interested...
3 :
You lost me at only read if you have time on your hands.. this site is for short answers, not page long answers. Maybe try talking to a specialist?
4 :
you need to stay in contact otherwise when you finally ask her to meet up she will be like " who are you?" and then she would say no but to get her to say yes try this plan make the visits to her advantage you know like maybe do revising with her or tutor her
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I think she will say yes. You sound like an amazing guy. But summer is just 2 months and a half. And, school and exams are just around the corner. And, its going to be even more stressful for her in University because then that will determin what job she will be doing!! So, I think school is the most important thing for her. So, I wouldn't torture myself like that. Look for other girls. I doubt this one is the right one for you since she chooses her school work over you. Good Luck ((= Answer Mine: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100407100205AACqyR4 ( Mine is a little long too)
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Hey man! u do deserve a yes for what all u have done for her....if she doesn't... she doesn't really understand ur feelings or deserves u really....but d fact she s under work pressure may account for her behaviour but ya acc to me...u deserve a yes and hopefully u ll get an affirmative reply! good luck for ur future! :)
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ya k well i totally get how she is cuz i am exactly the same way...i put school before everything, and sometimes it really sucks, but ya its really stressful and im sure id be really stressed if i was her ...and when im stressed i do rash things..she probably broke up with you cuz she couldnt risk the temptation of taking time off to have fun when this test determines her whole future...ya id do exactly what you said ..and give her some time off so she can figure somethings out because maybe she'll come around...but its hard to say because as you said you were being clingy...but id ask her to hang out again...and maybe get close to her again
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i dont think you should cut off contact. but dont be overbearing. i think you should call her occationally just to say good night. or see how she is and her school stuff. dont make it about the relationship make it about her. and if she says she hasnt got time tell her that youll always want her when she does have time and you understand her ambitions. tell her that your not going to find someone else and you dont mind sitting idly by until shes ready. you may even tell her that you wouldnt mind only getting to see her for 5 mins every 2 weeks as long as you could look into her eyes and hold her close to you. id say dont quit contact or she may stop have feelings for you, but dont annoyy her or that might happen too. be good to her, dont overload her and dont make it about you, and undestand and then when shes ready shell take you back.
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