GIRLS WIll she take me back? Read my story (bit long, sorry)?
k this is a bit long, only read it if you have time on your hands. Thanks :) We're both 17 and we went out for a few months. We're both fairly new to the whole dating thing. Anyway, I really like her, and she said she really liked me. Sometimes I would be a bit too needy, like I would text her and be surprised when she didnt text back (she's quite independent), but if we spent the day together doing something it would be the other way round. Just so you know, we're in England, not America, in our last two years of high school when we have these big exams that determine which universities we can go to. She is VERY into her work and feels under a lot of pressure since her parents are teachers and a lot of her relatives have gone to one of the top universities in the UK. Anyway, we had some trial exams about a month ago. She had a week of absolute hell, since she had lots of classwork to catch up on as well as revision for these trial exams (which, unlike me, she took very seriously). On the day of the last trial exam she dumped me, saying that she was behind on all her work and didn't want to fail. If any other girl told me this, I would think she was lying, but she isn't your everyday average teenage girl. Obviously at first I didn't believe her and reacted badly by walking away from her, so she texted me later saying again how sorry she was (I replied, not angrily, but agreeing it would be best to stay friends). I was talking to my matron afterwards (a sort of school nurse), who knew the girl and told me she was in fact struggling with her schoolwork (she knew this from feedback from other teachers). I tried to move on like she suggested, but it didn't seem to work. I dont know if I love this girl or not; she is not your generic high school hottie, she doesnt get much romantic attention from guys (she said she couldnt understand why I chose her "instead of some pretty blonde girl"), but in my eyes she is absolutely beautiful. I know she hurt me, but she is the sweetest, funniest girl I have ever known (it's not a trait most guys my age look for, but it is for me!). On my birthday (a week after she dumped me) I sent her a text saying I still had feelings for her. Her reply was friendly but she said "I am behind on all of my work, and I dont want to fail". When we went out, I would give her things. On a date I gave her a box of swiss chocolates, a chocolate lollipop one time, roses and a homemade card on valentines day, and a poem (yes, a poem... this is the only person in the world I would write this for). I gave her these things because we could only see each other once every few weeks, so I tried to make each occasion special (I couldn't hang around her or her friends obviously). A few weeks later, I wrote another poem for her (you might have seen me put it on here... I got good feedback so I'm guessing it was a good one). Her reply was a text saying "thankyou =) hope things are good with you". Obviously I was upset, so I replied saying "should I have written that for somebody else?" A few days later term ended and we're now on holiday, revising for the big exams which come up in a few weeks. Eventually we texted a bit more, agreeing to meet up sometime (just as friends). One night though I was just lying in bed, and I dont know what happened... I had had some family problems that day with arguments between my parents, who are split but who were trying to take us on holiday. I made a big mistake, overwhelmed by emotion, and sent her a text telling her I loved her (I know, big mistake... even though at this point, I realised it was true). She replied by saying she didn't have time for this (busy revising like everyone else), and although part of her felt the same she would rather focus on her school work. I texted her again later asking she was ok, I literally got a text just saying "I'm fine". I havent heard from her since, despite texting her to ask what was wrong and saying I was sorry. I know she doesn't love me back and she has much more important stuff to do at the moment, but all I want is to be able to hold her in my arms again and kiss her forehead and keep her safe. I've been told I'm handsome, I do lots of sport. I'm kind and compassionate (doesn't really work in my favour, since guys my age aren't meant to be). But I do know that once the summer comes, these exams will be out of the way, and she will feel much less stressed. I've decided to cut off contact with her completely until the exams are over and summer starts, and then ask if she wants to meet up sometime. If she says yes, I'll see how it goes, and hopefully ask her out again, knowing that we can at least have a summer relationship :) If everything goes to plan, do you think she will say yes?
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you deserve better. ik its hard to move on, but you have to. dont waste your time on her.
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Aw! Well don't worry! You seem like a really nice guy and all you want is to love this girl! I wish I was the girl you are talking about. It is rare to find girls that are solely for their school work. I agree that for now, you should leave her alone and not worry so much. I think that she would say yes because you seem like one of those guys that I would date (but you are about two years older than me so I can't) and you just seem like the sweet type. This girl would be mental not to want to date you again!
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