GIRLS: Is there a chance she'll take me back later? Read my story.. (bit long)?
Ok this is a bit long, only read it if you have time on your hands. Thanks :) We're both 17 and we went out for a few months. We're both fairly new to the whole dating thing. Anyway, I really like her, and she said she really liked me. Sometimes I would be a bit too needy, like I would text her and be surprised when she didnt text back (she's quite independent), but if we spent the day together doing something it would be the other way round. Just so you know, we're in England, not America, in our last two years of high school when we have these big exams that determine which universities we can go to. She is VERY into her work and feels under a lot of pressure since her parents are teachers and a lot of her relatives have gone to one of the top universities in the UK. Anyway, we had some trial exams about a month ago. She had a week of absolute hell, since she had lots of classwork to catch up on as well as revision for these trial exams (which, unlike me, she took very seriously). On the day of the last trial exam she dumped me, saying that she was behind on all her work and didn't want to fail. If any other girl told me this, I would think she was lying, but she isn't your everyday average teenage girl. Obviously at first I didn't believe her and reacted badly by walking away from her, so she texted me later saying again how sorry she was (I replied, not angrily, but agreeing it would be best to stay friends). I was talking to my matron afterwards (a sort of school nurse), who knew the girl and told me she was in fact struggling with her schoolwork (she knew this from feedback from other teachers). The next few weeks were a bit strange. I tried to move on like she suggested, messed around with some other girls (I am NOT a player, I was just trying to cut myself off from this girl emotionally by having some fun), but it didn't seem to work. I dont know if I love this girl or not; she is not your generic high school hottie, she doesnt get much romantic attention from guys (she said she couldnt understand why I chose her "instead of some pretty blonde girl"), but in my eyes she is absolutely beautiful. I know she hurt me, but she is the sweetest, funniest girl I have ever known (it's not a trait most guys my age look for, but it is for me!). On my birthday (a week after she dumped me) I sent her a text saying I still had feelings for her. Her reply was friendly but she said "I am behind on all of my work, and I dont want to fail". When we went out, I would give her things. On a date I gave her a box of swiss chocolates, a chocolate lollipop one time, roses and a homemade card on valentines day, and a poem (yes, a poem... this is the only person in the world I would write this for). I gave her these things because we could only see each other once every few weeks, so I tried to make each occasion special (I couldn't hang around her or her friends obviously). A few weeks later, I wrote another poem for her (you might have seen me put it on here... I got good feedback so I'm guessing it was a good one). Her reply was a text saying "thankyou =) hope things are good with you". Obviously I was upset, so I replied saying "should I have written that for somebody else?" Her reply was brutal: "I'll miss you, I always will and I'll never know what could have been but I'm gonna have to accept that. I want us to be friends, but I can't hold a relationship in this school". It was like a kick in the nuts. A few days later term ended and we're now on holiday, revising for the big exams which come up in a few weeks. Eventually we texted a bit more, agreeing to meet up sometime (just as friends). One night though I was just lying in bed, and I dont know what happened... I had had some family problems that day with arguments between my parents, who are split but who were trying to take us on holiday. I made a big mistake, overwhelmed by emotion, and sent her a text telling her I loved her (I know, big mistake... even though at this point, I realised it was true). She replied by saying she didn't have time for this (busy revising like everyone else), and although part of her felt the same she would rather focus on her school work. I texted her again later asking she was ok, I literally got a text just saying "I'm fine" (I think she has PMS at the start of each week which was when she sent this, but I'm not sure, just a theory...). I havent heard from her since, despite texting her to ask what was wrong and saying I was sorry. So now I'm sitting here at my desk, completely in love but not knowing if or when we'll ever be together again. I know she doesn't love me back and she has much more important stuff to do at the moment, but all I want is to be able to hold her in my arms again and kiss her forehead and keep her safe. I've been told I'm h
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I'm not sure about this one. Maybe you should find someone else.... :(
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Do no keep on texting her like i am sorry (some girls do not like that.. like me lol) Just wait till you see her then you tell her is everything okay between us? if she says yes then walks aways text her later and just say "hey baby lol" if she said i do not know if we are okay between us then you then you say like you can trust me ...go from there! Good Luck =] ANSWER MINE PLEASE!
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awe, you are soo sweet! so this will be kind of hard to hear, brace yourself: if you want things to work out between you two, you are gunna have to be content with just being friends at this point. this girl is obviously very focused with her schoolwork, and you will just become a hinderance if you keep bothering her right now. just try to hide your feelings, and be friends with her. this way, you will be able to maintain contact. later in the future, you will have a chance at a relationship again, but only if you keep talking to her and stuff - how will you be with her after school if you don't keep talking to her now ? it'll be hard, but just try your best to not to think of her too much, and give her time to catch up with schoolwork and such. once you get out of school, you will be more likely to havve a successful relationship, without the pressure of tests and stuff.] btw, i dont think it was such a big mistake that you said I love you to her ; after all , now she knows how you feel, and you wont be left wondering "what if.." also, she said a part of her felt the same, so that is a good sign. after tests are over and stuff, she will try to have a relationship with you again. please read mine too, its pretty long but not as long as yours was! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100405082350AAcF5gp&r=w
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It's one of those situations where your basically madly in love with her whether you have a choice in the matter like you said; I'm sure once all these tests and exams are over and she starts to feel a little better she'll start opening up more so if you really really love your just going to have to wait
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